Author: Barbara Goodhew


Sometimes when we've been hurt in the past.
We are cautious, to see if it will last.

We come across to others as being cold.
So I've been told.

It doesn't matter how hard we try.
Our past still makes us cry.

To get through our future.
We can't keep reliving our past.

People with apast are cautious not cold.


Comments on this poem/writing:

Terrie* ( -- Tuesday, October 12 2004, 06:26 am

Barb, your words are sincere and honest..

when my husband expired .i came across to many bachelors as cold, i was a very reserved person.. i had a love and i lost him.. ya ever hear that song " life turned her that way" that was me....i guarded my heart, and hun there is nothin' wrong with being cautious,i learned that one must allow enough deviation to accept another in, even just for friendship, one bad experience never presents itself twice, i had a beautiful loving marriage and when i lost it i didn't want a replacement.. believe me i had a problem w/someone invading my space..i still do..never feel that you must apologize for being cautious,thats our personal girl radar, when your heart is ready to release you as a prisoner of your own world, you will, at your own pace. your still young, go enjoy a Latee' or a capuchino & conversation w/a new friend... there is more to life than just things of the flesh..i still draw up on tears, from the life that i had to leave behind .it cleanses my soul and it reminds me where i came from.. i miss the person i continue to cry for..YOUR not a cold person..
you have a lot of life and love left to share..someday you will....enjoy that life again...HUGS/LOVE..have a blessed day..breath in Gods good air..
barb ( -- Tuesday, October 12 2004, 01:38 pm


You know terrie you didn't like being pushed to share , neither do I. It might take me til I'm 80 to share and then It'll be with someone I feel comfortable with. My ex-husband I shared everything with because he gained my trust and love. It took years but he let me share at my own pace.Thanks for letting me be me.
Capricorn ( -- Tuesday, October 12 2004, 10:51 pm


Wonderful message here Barb.

We must always be true to ourselves and never let people bully us into being what we don't want to be, or doing what we don't want to do.

I have never found you a cold person and I love your warm friendship. It pays to be cautious in life --that doesn't mean you're cold.Some feelings will always remain private, but sometimes that helps us to move on, in our own way. Great poem Barb
barb ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 01:19 am


Some things I keep private I dealt with them years ago.I don't think I should have to explain why I am who I am. thanks for the support.
barb ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 01:20 am


Some things I keep private I dealt with them years ago.I don't think I should have to explain why I am who I am. thanks for the support.
barb ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 01:23 am

there I go again with goof-ups

I clicked the reply twice oops.Hhaaa
Martin Vann ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 06:05 pm

So, You Are careful, Of The Past


Not, that I know, for a fact, you felt the heat of love, then, by circumstance, you felt, a lonely, cold wind blow. I understand, what your heart, shared, now it has past, or has it. Memores, can last forever, if, that is what a lonly hearts dreams, to go back to the past, if, that works for you, that is good. Yet, think of this, what has been, may never be again, have you the heart, to move on, or is your heart, locked into a memory?

Even if, you touch the past, from day to day, can you say, to your heart, this is what, you wnat, for a future?

Love the poem,
barb ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 09:15 pm

I didn't express myself right I guess

Nno Martin I'm cautious of the future because of the lets forget it ok.
barb ( -- Wednesday, October 13 2004, 09:20 pm

just to let you know

I do love I love my ex. my kids, my grandkids, my friends, my cat and they all fulfill my needs.
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